Memoirs


Tuesday, November 29, 2005

Thankgiving weekend

Thanksgiving started a bit early for me, after all I have a lot to be thankful for. I left work early on Wednesday still feeling a bit woozy from the flu I caught last weekend but I will spare yall the details. I took some Nyquil and some Theraflu and went nigh nigh. Thursday I decided to spend the day house hopping with Remi, her brother was in town so I went down to her house to see him; Back in Naija, I had a major crush on this dude, largely because he ignored the hell out of me! But now that I am all grown up…he has moved on and is happily married!!! Story of my life!! (Brother Folabi…it was great to see you again!) we ended up going to Remi’s Uncle’s house. As usual I ended up playing Chef boladeee, we went back to Remi’s house to get dressed and we rolled out for the night. I had mad fun, it was nice to spend the evening with all my favorite people.



















Day 1 of no sleep: I did not go to sleep on Friday, instead I allowed Dare to drag me to Comp USA for an early start on Black Friday. I ended up getting a digital camera! YES YALL! I finally have my very own digital camera!( Remi…maybe you can get me the case and SD card for it?) We spent the rest of the day roaming the mall, buying all kinds of foolishness.
Dammy decided that she wanted to hang out on Friday as a before party for her scheduled RaRa on Saturday so I quickly washed up and got ready for our big outing. Day 2 of no sleep: Dayo picked me up and we went to this Moroccan joint were you sit on the floor and inhale flavored tobacco; I was soooo trying to be open minded but warahel? I was done after about five minutes and we changed venue to this hotspot called Office. I had an amazing time wilding out! We finally headed home after about 4 hours of undiluted techno and oldschool. I could not sleep the rest of the night, I had managed to accompany my flu with a crises! After about 2 hours of self-medicating I needed to go to the hospital! If I did not get a shot of vicodin soon, I cannot be held responsible for my actions! I opted for a govt hospital because my ghetto ass has no health insurance. After the usual drill I was given fluids intravenously to hydrate my ass and then a milligram of diludid with benadryl and they took blood samples for my lab. After about an hour, the doctor returned with my labs to tell me that I do not have sickle cell therefore she will have to discharge me. WTF! I guess this is the part where I should be grateful that by some miracle, a disease I have nursed for 27 years has mysteriously left my blood! I would except for the tiny fact that I was in Crises at that very moment!!!!! Dare told me of a cousin of his who went through the same phenomenon…hmmm, I will need a second opinion before I break out the courvoisier. Anywho I went home to rest for a few hours before I start Day 3 of no sleep: Dammy was downstairs freaking out because there was no one to cook for her party, I couldn’t let my baby gir down so I went Rambo in the kitchen, delegating like an award winning chef and cooking Jollof rice, fried rice and chicken in record time. I took my leave and retired to my very inviting bed.
I woke up around 1:30 from the sound of my vibrating water closet and the random YEEEE!! YAAAAAAAHHHH! coming from the floor below me. I jumped in the shower and dressed quickly and made my way downstairs.
It was pitch black and I could hardly find my way to the door! Where are my damned cigarettes and who are all these people? I saw some familiar faces in the kitchen and I found a spot to sit and observe the most jumping party I have seen in my entire time in Raleigh. I went ouside with some friends to see the maze of cars in my otherwise calm and quiet Oyinbo neighborhood. Hell! Imma be evicted come Monday!!!



















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It was quite an evening and even though I felt like crap I had major fun. The last guest left at about 4:30am then Dammy and her friends cleaned up my entire crib. My walls are all messed up with grinding marks and my carpet is in dire need of a steam clean; I have 15 bags of trash out back for trash day and not a single thing in my frigerator to eat or drink. But other than that..It was a great weekend!!
Happy Birthday to my baby girl Dammy…I lu you boo!!!

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Wednesday, November 23, 2005

Obey your parents!

Okay yall…picture this.
Girlfriend and this dude have been dating for like 2 years, they finally decided to tie the knot and the grooms family will not give their blessings because home girl is Ijebu and dude is Ondo…WTF? Apparently there is some kind of beef between the two states from way back in the Black and White days.
They truly love each other and all but the wedding plans have been postponed till kingdom come because of this?
Goes to show how backwards our people can be! That’s like saying you Shoniqua and Taoriq cant get married because he’s from LA and she’s from NY…. Huh?
This is like the third time I’ve see this same crap.
What are your views?
How far are we willing to take this ‘obey your parents’ when their views are a blatant disregard for our feelings?

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Reality ........think about it

Sisters:

You dont want to BE his mother.....

but you want someone who is like YOUR father.

You say all men are dogs....

but you should know ALL DOGS ARE LOYAL.

NO one wants a pimp....

but we all LOVE the thug.

MEN ain't crap....

but we will drop our friends in a minute if he calls.

Don't want to be a SEX symbol....

but at the club you are GRINDIN' all around on the dance floor in your

"new club outfit."

HATE mind games...

but at the club your name is shoniqua, when your real name is Shakki.



BROTHERS:

FLAUNT your jewels, clothes, timbs....

but COMPLAIN about a gold digger.

WANT to be Big Poppa....

but NOT to be a daddy.

Want a woman WITH her head on right....

but constantly search for that BANGIN' BODY.

Complain about the WHITE man...

but will DATE his white daughter.

Want a woman to STAND by your side through it all....

but claim that she CROWDS you.

Too young for a RELATIONSHIP....

but ready for RELATIONS.

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Monday, November 21, 2005

PRIDE- I SWEAR THIS EGO IS A B^*&&^!

I am not the author of todays post, one of my dearest friends sent this to me to share with others on my blog. I wish I had some good advise for her but yall know I've got my own issues. True story, she call me up on Saturday to vent, I am usually the one bitching and she listen and comforts me but the tables were turned and I don even know how to be there!
Baby girl...I guess all I can do is listen and just know when ever you feel like venting...... I am all ears!!


Ok. I’ve been laying low with my thoughts but I just had to send this for you to post cause I couldn’t get it out of my mind. I read your question on the cheating thing and going through my own sea of thoughts I really had to stop and ask ‘What is it that keeps us doing things that we shouldn’t or don’t even want to do?” Then it hit me! Some have said low self esteem but I think it also swings the other way. Some people reading this might think I don’t have an ego or there’s no pride in me, but dare I say we all walk with a degree of pride that manifests itself in different forms. Some are more blatant than others and some are so silent and such a part of who we’ve trained our mind we are that we don’t’ even see it and we resort to saying “oh that’s just me” or even worse, we cloak it under the guise of self worth. Let me explain: I’m a firm believer in not settling for less, recognizing your worth and all the self affirmations out there. But I think it is this same affirmation that pushes us into that fine line called pride. SO we pump ourselves up and when things and people come into our lives, we have this “I deserve it” or “Can’t happen to me” mentality because I’m this and that: “I have this degree and I shouldn’t have to work that kind of job”; “I’m so good that I have to be the only one or he/she wouldn’t cheat on me”; “I’m a kind person and people have to like me”… I think a bunch of the heartaches we endure are self inflicted and we don’t even see it. Example (since we’ve been talking about relationships I’ll use that): There’s the person that u never really paid attention to until everyone else was trying to get at them so u say I’m gonna get them (ego). You get them & y’all start kicking it and things are cool. Then you drop in ever so often looking fab and playing the seductive roll so that he/she gives in and you prove to yourself once again “see how much he/she wants” (ego). THEN you find out you’re not the only one! Now your mind’s all messed up and you’re wondering how could this happen (ego). You’re all wrapped up in trying to understand that you forgot the fact that you DIDN’T want them to begin with, that you know there’s no future with them and that you know there’s someone more deserving of you. Let’s not forget the fact that you said you were done the last several times they were a jerk, or the time you messed up and said God if you get me out of this, I won’t go back, or those subtle gut feelings you had that said let it go or the dream you had showing you to let it go. NOOO. You’re still caught up trying to figure out how and why me or why not me. Even worse, after all that, you’re still toying with the idea of going back there again. Now what in a sane person’s mind would cause us to go through all that trouble/mess/heartache for something we don’t need or necessarily want and STILL want to hold on? Then some scriptures popped in my mind: “When pride cometh, then cometh shame” “A man's pride shall bring him low: but honour shall uphold the humble in spirit” “Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall” Dare I say it’s our pride- the pride that says this couldn’t have happened to me or it must have been a mistake so I’ll give it another try to prove that I was right and that obviously he/she/they think more of me that they’re putting out. It is this same pride that causes us to put up with things, people and get in situations that we know better. Usually by the time we realize how deep it is we’ve already experienced the shame and fall. But I think God permits us to go through these mistakes to remember that no matter how highly we think of ourselves, we’re still human and our natural instincts are still active. To show us that we need to constantly rely on Him to give us the ability to discern when we’re acting in pride and to grant us the humility to know when to bow out. SO for all of us that have messed up, will mess up, or are messing up- Leave it up to God cause He’ll still get the glory out of our mess, He’ll bless and use us IN SPITE of ourselves and we’ll come out stronger on the other end and be a witness to someone else falling so they know they’re not alone and it too will pass. Now some of us may have several retakes and may even get knocked back a grade, but if we study to show ourselves approved, we WILL, not might but WILL pass the test.
OK- that’s all for now. post away

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Friday, November 18, 2005

My dearest June Bug

My buddie’s last day was today, it was very sad to see him leave but he got a great offer elsewhere so I aint mad at him. Jim was really great to work with we joined the company at the same time and we learned together, we smoked together, we carpooled together we ate lunch together. My fondest memory of June bug, as I fondly call him, was when he called me 2am one day, wasted from drinking and I was like…the hell? He goes “hey B, don’t bother picking me up this morning, I am not gonna be able to make it to work” I was like “June…. its Saturday, we don’t have work this morning!” I never let him live that one down. Jim is officially my first white friend, well not counting the 7th grade Alicia Broadhurst, she was a mess, had snakes for pets and always wore black nail polish, but I digress, so I am really gonna miss working with Jim mehn!!!! Yesterday I organized a going away luncheon for him at Bennigans the turn out was really nice. I am really happy for Jim but bummed that he’s leaving. There goes another one of my confidant. It is amazing how people randomly come in and out of our lives. I mean folks you are cool with now may not necessarily be the ones you are cool with in 5 years and the ones from 5 years ago have somehow fallen off your radar. I don’t know if I am alone in my thoughts but I truly value my friendships and despite my issues I have kept my closest friends over the years and made some new close ones. So Thelma, Moji, Remi, Simmy, Bisola, Imade, Dayo, Lola, Elisa, Bukky and E.I…have I told you lately that I love yall?

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Thursday, November 17, 2005

As my faith is tested.....

Aight today’s discussion is promised to be very controversial but let me state my disclaimer so it does not turn into a personal attack.
I am a Christian, I believe in God, I believe he died for my sins, I also believe NO ONE has the right to judge me or doubt my righteousness but God. I believe being a Christian is having a personal relationship with God. I am a sinner, I acknowledge that so let he who is without sin caste the first stone. Having said that…I’ll get on with my discussion, or rather, a question that has been troubling me since last Thursday. I contemplated not discussing it but I am flesh so my curiosity won the battle.
So I was on my way to my part-time job as a Marlboro girl and my supervisor who happens to be 22, was talking about religion. He stated that he was not an atheist but he did not have a particular religion. I felt the need to introduce him to Jesus. Told him the word says “Jesus is the way, the truth and the light” and “Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God” He looked at me as if I somehow made sense to him then he said “Bola do you believe in dinosaurs” I was like what does that have to do with becoming a Christian but I indulged him and said “yes we have the bones in the museum to prove it”. Then he asked “how long do you think they existed?” I told him I had no clue, I failed my evolution class. “According to evolutionists, their remains and fossils proved that they lived about 140 million years and they became extinct 65 million years ago” he offered.
I was getting bored with his evolution garbage so I asked “there is a point to this right?” then he asked me what was my guide and my reassurance that Jesus is the way, the truth and the light. I told him the bible said so and the bible was inspired by God. He threw me off with his next question. “If you believe in Christ and the foundation of your belief is the words written in the Bible, how then do you explain Genesis? I was like huh? Then he went on to say “According to the bible ‘In the beginning God created heaven, and earth and the sun and the waters and plants and animal and man; man had dominion over all the land the plants and the animals right? I nodded in agreement “If all of this took place in seven days, where are the dinosaurs? Please note that the average dinosaur weighed about 40 tons and stood 20 feet high, so man and dinosaurs could not co-exist, the bible makes no mention of dinosaurs and even when Noah built that ark, there was no dinosaur in there so how do you explain that” he continued. “If in fact dinosaur were long extinct before man then the bible’s account of the beginning is Bogus and if man and dinosaurs co-existed why was such an enormous animal not mentioned in the bible?” I was not sure what do say or how to answer his question, I was not even sure it was my place to try and explain it so I said “being a Christian is having faith, and faith is believing in things you can’t explain” I was obviously getting aggravated so we dropped it, but I cant help but wonder if he had a point somewhere in his misguided ignorance if there a valid basis for his questions.

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Tuesday, November 15, 2005

ROTFLMAO!!!!!

If you schooled in Naija, I know you either sent this letter or received it! How cute!

At school, July 10, 1994

My dearest, sweetest, fondest, fantastic, extra-ordinary, paragon of beauty a.k.a Bola. I hope this letter meets you in a fabulous state of metabolism, if so doxology. My principal aim of writing this letter to you is to gravitate your mind towards a matter of global and universal importance, which has been troubling my soul. The matter is so important. Even as I am writing, my adrenaline is 100 per cent on the Richter scale, my temperature is rising, the windvane of my mind is pointing North, South and East at the same time; the mirror in my eyes has only your divine image.

Indeed when I sleep, you are the one in my medulla oblongata, and I dream about you.
I went out to sea in My dream, and I saw you: surrounded by H20 and you in your majesty rose from the abdomen of the sea like Yemoja, the avatar of beauty.
Oh, Lord be with us! We are thy servants. As you can see, I am in a serious dilemma. And I want you to take my matter seriously. At this junction, what our Lord said on this matter is germane.

He says we should ask, and we shall be given, we should seek and we will find, and that we should knock, and it will be opened unto us. I am this 10th day of the seventh month in the year of our Lord, one thousand, nine hundred and seven eight, asking, seeking and knocking at your door. My prayer is that thou should open so that thy servant can enter. I want to wake up in the morning and see only your face.

I want you to be the only sugar in my tea, the only fly in my ointment, the butter on my bread, the grey matter of my system, the oxygen in my head, the planet of my universe, the wall clock of my room. The conveyor belt of my soul. I pray that you realise the gargantuan nature of my predicament.
If you refuse, my life will be like tea without sugar, like a snail without shell, a Xmas goat without a horn; in fact I'd become an orphan.
In fact I'd kill myself. What is life if I can't wake up in the morning and behold your face?

You model of pulchritude, patiently created by God on a Sunday morning before he went on a deserved holiday. Please Bola, let me be your Romeo. Make me the Adam to your Eve. Shakespeare said it all: if music be the food of love, play on. I want to emphasise, universally and responsibly, that you are love itself. You are the metaphor, oxymoron, thesis, antithesis, irony, gerund, conjunction
and the adverb of love.

At this juncture, let me also say that geography of your body is a permanent alleluia. Not from your body, ammonia, urea and iodine - you are too beautiful for that, what I see in your body is milk and honey. At this juncture, brevity is the soul of wit.
A stitch in time saves nine. Procrastination is the thief of time. An opportunity once lost can never be regained. Make hay while the sun shines.
All that glitters is not gold. The journey of a thousand years begins with a step. What God has put together let no man put asunder.

To be a man is not an easy task even if God's time is the best. But time waits for no one. A man without love is like a fish out of water.
I know you are a sagacious girl. If you like the veracity of what I am saying, please fill the attached form and let me have it pronto.

The mark at the bottom of this page is a kiss from me to you.

I remain Your beloved, faithful, loyal, One and only admirer.

Tunde



Form

what is your name? Age?

Do you have a boyfriend? If yes, please state why? If no, please explain?

Do you love me? If no, state why. If yes, doxology. What is your hobby?

Which is your favourite food? Mother's occupation? Father's occupation?

Are you from a polygamous home? Is your father rich and handsome?
Is your mummy also a paragon of beauty like you?

What do your parents want their son-in-law to become in life?

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Only a Naija person would say....

1. Insult upon injury
2. Nonsense and Ingredient
3. If i sound u ehh, I will soon slap you
4. How Far?
5. Can I see your particulars?
6. Anything for me sir?
7. Are you mad?
8. Half-caste
9. Next tomorrow
10. Make I come block you dia
11. Lie, Lie
12. See me see trouble oh
13. Shift small for me lemme sit
14. abeg vamus / abeg commot
15. nonsense say wetin happen
16. Abomination
17. Over my dead body
18. God forbid bad thing
19. I need to retouch my (h)air
20. any word with 'bloody' e.g. bloody fool, bloody
liar, bloody idiot
21. Na wa oooo
22. Tell me something
23. Why do you want to know my name?
24. Abeg joo
25. Can u imagine.....
26. wonders shall never end / cease
27. Tofiakwa (n some people feeling janded will say
TUFI!!!!)
28. Chei, Kai
29. Oya me we dey go
30. Hold on lemme branch somewhere
31. Come and Escort Me
32. Stop at that junction over there
33. Borrow me your pen/biro
34. Still yet
35. Me and you will enter the same trouser
36. You are so annoying
37. Why? Because Y has a long tail and branches
38. What is the time? Quarter To buy your own
39. Effico
40. ITK- I too know
41. Muumu
42. How are you? 'We're managing'
43. and so what?
44. I want some assorted biscuits e.g. Rich tea,
Digestive
45. Your face look familiar or similiar(kano horses)
46. You are so daft
47. NFA- No future ambition
48. Are you already ready?
49. That is so dry!
50. My belly is full
51. Did they sack you?
52. I trekked all the way here
53. Where is the toilet, I want to piss
54. I want to drink cold mineral
55. Which ones now?
56. Can u imagine, he was trying to toast me
57. Jacker
58. Your head is not correct
59. Have you seen that film before?
60. Just imagine!
61. My school fees money
62. No wahala!
63. Revise back small
64. Oya, shake body
65. Shine your eye
66. Carry go
67. Don't try me o
68. Enough effizzy
69. Nna, You chop?
70. Ashewo bastard!
71. What happen?
72. We must wash am!
73. Eeyin, but why? (meaning ore/aboki/friend-- why
now?)
75. No be soooo!
76. I will see you today, athink?
77. Cold iced water!
78. abeg commot 4 hia
79. we’ll hook up next week
80. dat chick is BUNZ!!!!!!!
81. BEANZ!!!!!!!!!!!
82. Na Yam?
83. Shakara
84. Na so we see am o!
85. How we go do am now?
86. Like say....
87. You can't do more than a dead rat...
88. Na you sabi
89. cold dey catch me
90. I no send
91. shey you grab
92. ma guy, leave am
93. you dey jones
94. you go roast
95. na for your head
96. we go jam
97. I go burst ur head
98. Bros how far
99. How e dey do u
100. No be Goooood?
and my personal invention......101. ugarishoes

I am so proud to be nigerian mehn!! I remember when I was younger I was so ashamed of my culture and heritage.... I even changed my name to Keisha in order to fit in with the American kids and to keep the MOFOS from calling me Shaka Zulu and Afican Boodie scatcher!!! Now I am just so fucking proud to be a Nigerian its borderline arrogant!!

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What do you do when your mate is untrue?

Yesterday’s post got mad responses; I had some folks call me up to add their two cents and some shy ones even emailed me. Good to know what folks think, the majority agreed though that it is possible and depending on the circumstances even inevitable….Hmmm very interesting indeed.
Aight so today I have another question. What do you do when you find out your partner, lover, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife has been dipping on you? Do you cut the sucker off? Do you forgive and move on providing he/she doesn’t do it again? Does it matter if it’s with someone you know or is it better with a random no one. Please lets think before we speak because a lot of us front like our shit don’t stink and recite that lame mantra of a naïve man/woman. Let me paint a scenario so you catch my drift. You have invested time into a relationship, love for one another is not in question, temptation gets the better of your mate and they bologna bop (I just learnt that one, hehe) with someone else, you find out, they apologize sincerely do you:

A) cut the sucker loose
B) forgive and forget
C) confront the outsider
D) cheat as well and call it even

I know it must be harder once you get married, I mean how you deal with this crap after you say your vows. A guy told me recently that you can still cheat on someone you love and it doesn’t take away from it…I beg to differ but if you do find out what do you do? How do you deal with it?
As for me, I had a rule but I have come to find rules are not applicable to matters of the heart.

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Monday, November 14, 2005

Things that make you go HMMMMM!!!

So is it true what they say about once debe always debe? Allow me to translate….. Can your ex still hit that after you’ve broken up? Is there always going to be something that keeps you connected? Can you ever just remain friends or will there be some rekindling down the line? I am curious. In my opinion I guess it depends on why you broke up, how painful it was and whether or not you’ve moved on. If yall are not even speaking, it is very unlikely that you will be panashukwing anytime soon. What if you do get down…..do you feel guilty afterwards? How do you handle the tension you create especially if your issues still exist? Do you even want to bother? For men its different because I have been told that they do not necessarily attach any feelings to sex, for them it is just an act, they can get up and shake it off and go about their business. For women, it’s a lot different, it’s emotional and you get all caught up in the moment and attach more meaning to the act than necessary.
With all this complication, why would you even wanna? I am not sure if its fact or fiction, I guess it really just depends on the circumstances.

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Friday, November 11, 2005

This week......Get to Know Mo

1. Name - Moji
2. Age - In my 20s
3. Zodiac sign - Capricorn
4. DOB - non of ya biz
5. Profession -Recruiter
6. Hobbies - traveling and cooking
7. Schools attended - Apata and SJSU
8. Favorite book - Dating Game
9. Best friend - too many to list
10. Where are you from? ondo state or should i say CA or MD
11. Favorite food - Anything Thai
12. Ideal mate - God fearing, Loyal, Honest
13. Most prized possession... my car ..yeah i know it's a Honda :)))
14. If you had one wish... to be in Atlantis right now just laying on the beach
15. Dislikes... procrastinating, fake peeps
16. One thing you would change about yourself... hmmm.....nada
17. What drives you? success
18. Describe yourself in one word -Fabulous....
19. Who has had the most influence in your life besides God.. My mama
20. Words of advise for QB - It is well gal.. Leave it to the almighty. :)))))


My girl Mo!! Long overdue but let me tell yall about my ACE. We went to high school together and she was sooooo not a babe so we weren’t friends. Its funny because she was best friends with one of my best friends Simmy. I didn’t particularly dislike her but I didn’t acknowledge her either. So back in yankee, I was at a party and we were about to leave and I saw a familiar face. I grabbed her hand and said “ hey I know you but I cant remember your name” she looked at me and said “ Bola Odegbami!” I was like “yeah but whats your name?” she said “Moji Akinyemi” I looked baffled then she offered “Simmy’s friend” and it dawned on me! My, my…Moji had blossomed since high school o! We exchanged numbers and we’ve been inseparable since then. We fight a lot which is typical of great friends, I am the stubborn one and she is the reasonable one. We share similar taste in everything but men. I love being around her because she finds me hilarious. Sometimes I have to bitch slap her ass because she is butter (spoiled). I especially love that she has my back always and is supportive of me regardless of what I do. Mo you are my sister and my friend and I will always love you.


P.S…..Moji is spoken for, so brothers stand down!!

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Thursday, November 10, 2005

Going down memory lane

I love taking pictures, I have a ton of pictures of myself my family and friends, I even made this collage some years back with all my pictures, I am thinking of making another one, not that I am particularly photogenic or anything but I love the history behind it. Going down memory lane and revisiting each stage of your life and enjoying it. So what happens to the pictures that remind you of a past you don’t care to remember? What do you do with those? I keep them anyway because your past is what makes you who you are; the pain the joy, the bitter and the sweet all ascribe to your character today so why erase them? So I stayed up last night looking through my albums and it was amazing how much I’ve changed. Physically in the last five years I have gone up 3 dress sizes, from a 3 to a 9. On some days I am grateful for the weight because I was border line anemic but I filled out nicely (if I may say so myself).Believe it or not, they used to call me Bola Spaghetti because I was so damn thin but after my daughter I blew up and I have not gone down since. Then there is the personal growth. I have been through so much hardship in my life and I have learned from each one of them, in fact it has made me a stronger person. I remember I used to parry like it was my birthday erryday but these days when I go out I just sit and observe, I can’t get with the jumping, jumping anymore it’s amazing! What’s even more amazing is watching Omolayo grow with me. She is five now and last night she was trying her darnest to impress my guests with her new reading skills, it makes my heart leap! Her vocabulary is incredible and she is even more sarcastic than I am. Please take some time out to revisit your past that way you can be better prepared for your future if you don’t take pictures…starts now… create memories for your future.












Me in 1997


















My favorite Picture


Omolayo and I in recent times


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Wednesday, November 09, 2005

E mi nikan tan!

Yepa! God is good o! All the time! I am telling you, he has been doing great things in my life and I just cant believe it, I know I have not deserved 1/10 the blessings he’s bestowed upon me but he still manages to overwhelm me with his tender mercies!!!
Sometimes I wonder what he would do if I achieved my ultimate goal in walking in the path he designed for me, it would be absolutely divine!!!

Alright so yesterday I was vexed beyond my imagination and I spent the better part of my work day abusing my keyboard. I then made a couple calls to Remi and Moji and vented even more. I was so upset, I had a headache. Finally at about 5pm I decided to resume work and put my troubles aside. Apparently the whole time I was engaged in monkey business my boss had sent me an email asking for my extension! He sent me the email at 12:15 and I was just reading it at 5! I was scared that someone had reported that I was upset and I was gonna get it big time! I looked everywhere for him and he had left for the day. I called his cell and it was switched off.

Later last night I had to go to a meeting for my Phillip Morris job, it was a refresher on proper procedure. Our lead bought us drinks and appetizers and we chilled for about an hour and a half. How cool is that? Meeting over drinks and things and getting paid at the same time!

I decided to come into work early today and talk to my boss about yesterday. He told me he was only trying to update his directory with my new extension. Phhhhheeeeewwwww!!!!
Boy am I relieved!!!! I headed back to my desk and got a call from the agency that hired me. The lady told me that she was calling to let me know that I have been given a 15% raise! Huh? Why? I asked her, she laughed and said because you are doing a fabulous job!! E ba mi ki Alleluya Meje Sombory upstairs loves me.

My synopsis, I am not doing a great job, I come in late, leave early, work from home on almost every Friday, blog on company time, vent on IM, catch up with my friends on company phone, on company time, dialing long distance and when I am not doing all that I do my homework! So I know it wasn’t anything I did O!! That was just God and boy, am I grateful!!

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Monday, November 07, 2005

Thank God for Remi…the voice of reason.

OMG I was mad today! Livid in fact and of course when I am that pissed I lash out on my keyboard and type furiously but Remi helped me regain my sanity and calmed my damn nerves, her and the pack of cigarettes I inhaled one after the other. We talked today like we hadn’t in ages and I realized that I jeopardized all that for NOTHING!!!
Damn the veil was lifted and for that I give thanks to God. Mehn Therapists deserve every penny they earn cause I tell you when you can talk, you are half way there.

So I called in reinforcement for Junebug since he is leaving in like 10 days and I was told my friend was hired only for our agent to call back and say that someone else got the damn job! I was upset about that too! But not as upset as I was earlier! I need anger management I swear, unless there is a calm person around me when I’m pissed, I tend to do the most irrational shit! (O God, please instill in me a spirit that is slow to anger…AMEN)
See me see flying cows o! I was sitting at my desk jejely and trying to get some work done finally and this recruiter sends me an email to go for a break with, the following is what ensued;

Recruiter: Wanna go for a break?
Me: Na…kinda swamped right now but thanks
Recruiter: Swamped? So swamped you cant take five?
Me: Na ….I got mad work to do…maybe later
Recruiter: Come on….just one cigarette, I even have my own this time
Me: Its not about the cigarettes, I am really busy
Recruiter: What Ever!!! Hooker
Me: ??????
Recruiter: You are such a snob! I don’t even know why we are friends!

Where in the?…what the? ..why? who? Huh???
Aight so please help me understand where I went wrong …and hooker? Emi Omobolanle? Kai!!! Oyinbo don kill me finish o! I was waiting for the punch line cause this is a joke right? For a few minutes, I though of a response, then I typed;

Point of correction, we are not friends, we merely work together and as such I am not obligated to take smoke breaks with you, never mind the fact that we just took one 45 minutes ago! I do not appreciate you calling me anything other than my Government name so please refrain from the insults. In the future, I’d advise that you find someone else to keep you company in your idle time.

I almost sent it then I remember that I’ve been told I come off as hostile and angry and I really don’t want to be that person anymore so instead I deleted it and did not respond.

She came by my desk a few minutes before 5 and said “Listen, I was way out of line earlier and I apologize, I am just having a really bad day” I smiled and responded “ No problem” and it really wasn’t.

Vexation of spirit is a waste of time, Negative thinking don't you waste your thoughts, Verbal conflict is a waste of word, Physical conflict is a waste of flesh( got that from Wale's blog)

Lesson learned…. don’t sweat the petty things, pet the sweaty things (Is it just my dirty mind or does that have a sexual innuendo?)

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Saturday, November 05, 2005

AS IF!!!!

My girlfriend and I were talking the other day and she told me about some random no one that does not like me. Usually I would have been like “ pick a number biach and join the line” but this time its different simply because I don’t even know the heifer! Never seen her, never spoke with her nada! So I am thinking. …Damn I’m famous! I’ve got haters in every area code!!! So I am going bananas trying to figure out where this random no one knows me from and I called Mo up cause I’m told the chick lives in her hood and she was like who? Is that the name of a street in Naija? Buhahahahah… that was funny! I swear Mo is stupid. Okay moving on…since I have wwwwaaaaayyyy bigger fishes to fry.
To all the haters anonymous…pucker up and kiss my royal (QUEEN B) ass!!!

My buddy Jim from work is leaving! He got a great offer and he’s moving on to bigger and better things! This boy is mad cute, majorly talented and as humble as they serve em and he is the first Oyinbo boy that has tickled my fancy…. but (hell you know there had to be a but!) he is only 25! I know folks are like so what? Age aint nothing but a number? But the hell it aint! I am not into older men at all but I need em to be at least my age! Anything else for me is robbing the cradle! But damn! let me tell you them young blood are coming up quite nicely!!!! But I deviate, so Jim or June Bug as I fondly call him is leaving me in 2 weeks! No more car-pool, no smoke partner, no happy hour buddy! Babe you will be sourly missed!

Ah so there is this new thing from google where you can create you own search engine and instead of google you can insert your own text. So I made one for myself. …click below http://www.pimpmysearch.com/php/set.php?gname=Queen%20B#

If you must be like me and you want one too……… click here
http://www.pimpmysearch.com/php/mailcreate.php

Don’t forget…..life’s too short so enjoy!!!

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Wednesday, November 02, 2005

The longest post ever!

Hello all my peeps! Yeah I have been gone for a minute but I am back!!!! My little break was good for me. I was going through so much that I felt I need some ME time. I am feeling great these days though, a lot of great news and some in the making, I will divulge later.

A quick run down of what I’ve been up to.
A little drama here and there, lots of blessings, renewal of friendships, cleaning of closets…. you know a bit of everything. I finally got tired of being bald so I got Kiwi’s sister Deola to braid my hair. I am still working as a temp but I have some things in the works. I met someone but I am so scared of being punked….again so I am taking baby steps.
So I went to Charlotte for a friend’s party a couple months ago and I swear the whole experience was like punked! I kept waiting for Aston Kucher to pop out and tell me this was a freaking joke but he never surfaced, I guess my ass aint a celebrity after all.
So I went through one of the most awkward shenanigans that left me really disturbed but what amazed me more was how quickly I snapped out of it, realizing that life is weird like that. I also realize you should never compromise who you are for anyone. In life we go through drama but it’s all good so long as there is a lesson learned…needless to say I’ve learned my lesson.

Remi and I have squashed our beef……I apologized to her for tripping and although we still have a long way to go I think the foundation has been laid. I have spent the last two years of my life in denial but now I am back! Speaking of Remi, my girl got a boob job! Yes O! Not implants like I will be getting soon, but a reduction! Now baby girl is a DD and looking hella good!





















Before ..............................................After

We had a surprise parry for Dupe at my crib….it was fun, kinda like my first major social since I came out of isolation mode.
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It is amazing what a broken heart does to you! Mehn I totally freaked out, I was starting to scare myself. A friend of my told me to snap out of it and stop my addiction with pain….I was a bit confused with that but now it makes sense. I realize I am not the problem and I have no regrets because now I know what NOT to do, besides it was mad fun while it lasted so every time I want to bitch slap myself for not listening to my friends, I stop and thank God for the experience. Ladies here is some truth for the day….Men are not DOGS, we (women) are just foolish….period! I urge everyone to cop a copy of ‘He’s just not that into you’ put it right next to your bible and meditate on that sucka day and night, only then will you realize, he will treat you however you let him so don’t compromise your integrity and loose yourself in any man!

How about my Ace Mo is living the good life! It’s a bit too early and I don’t want to jinx things but my boo is blessed! Boo bear you deserve it…I wish you happiness in abundance.
Ok so Kiwi and I decided to go to my sister’s 15 year anniversary celebration at the family resort in Busch Garden. We woke up mad early and hit the road; we drove 3.5hours only to find that the event had been cancelled! I was livid to put it mildly! Apparently folks were complaining about the cost and the Ogunfiditimi family decided to have a private party instead but I did not get this memo because they had no idea I was coming, it was going to be a surprise….well I surprised the mess out of myself! Anywho Kiwi and I drove down to Potomac mills and went bananas then we headed to Owings Mills and chilled with Mo for the night! Talk about impromptu road trip.

Another road trip the following weekend to MD, Remi’s cousin who is 30 is celebrating her 10 year wedding anniversary! How sweet is that? So we rented a car and headed to MD which worked out for me since Mo organized this fall get-together for just the ladies, an opportunity to hang out and relax, pass the courvoisier, play games and male bash with an option to spend the night.
We headed out to MD and about 2 hours into our trip, we stopped at a rest area to take a leak, I was happily chatting on my phone as I headed out to the bathroom. I stuck my phone in my back pocked and pulled my pants down and PLOP! There goes my phone in the toilet! OMG! I stood there and contemplated picking it up and I finally did because I do not know anyone’s number off hand. I washed the phone and my hand and everyone laughed at me. I called E from Remi’s phone because he was coming to pick me up and my phone died after that! Funeral arrangements are in progress…I will keep you abreast.
So E picked me up at 1 am and we headed to B’more and Moji was pissed at me cause I didn’t call her and she was worried, but she was over it in like 3 seconds.
I spent the entire day Saturday cooking and painting. I promised Mo a painting for her new crib so we made a quick tip to Michaels and I went to work. The ladies started arriving at about 5 pm and the last group let at 4am! I was exhausted and we were going to JHB in the morning. Moji, Nneka, Shola and I headed out to church in the morning, everyone else went home.
I had lunch date and then I rushed home to get ready for Remi’s cousin’s thingy. Moji and Bimbo dropped me. I tell you it was bananas! There was mad food and it was very elegant and not your regular crowded MD gig. I couldn’t fully enjoy it because I was not feeling so hot. Moji and Bimbo ended up staying with me for a couple hours even though they were casually dressed.
A big Shout out to:
Elisa….baby girl my God bless you as you start each new day and my his grace and blessings overwhelm and embarrass you!!
Mo…I am so happy for you….get berra boo!!
E…good looking out baby!!
Carlito….thanks for everything…I am a complicated woman but I guess you know this now….thanks for your patience.
Dayo….May the Lord strengthen you!
Wally….thanks for all the love and support!
Omo Ibo…. I can’t stand yall MOFOS but thanks for opening my eyes.
To my concerned readers that raised hell in my absence…..love you right back!!!

Many more pictures to come but for now live life to the fullest!!

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